After an interaction with someone recently, it caused me to reflect on ‘truth’. First let me share what happened…a man was animatedly telling me how the world is so messed up. He was going into great, loud detail about all the many ways this was true.
He had names of companies and prominent people who were behind much of the mess; he adamantly knew what was going on and why it was so wrong; and he wanted to convince others (including me) of his point of view.
I listened with interest and noticed how caught up in this world view he was. When he finally took a breath, I said that I honored that that was his truth and I could certainly see his many points, AND that I had a different truth, a different perspective, and I didn’t feel the same way.
As is the case with many people who are ‘gripped by an opinion’, he wouldn’t allow me to co-exist with a different truth — he felt it was necessary to convert me, to get me to see the light, to help me to see ‘the truth’.
I again honored his perspective, and again reinforced that his truth and my truth weren’t the same, and that that was okay with me. But he got quite loud and insisted that, “There is ONLY ONE TRUTH! And if you are denying it, then you are like an ostrich with your head in the sand. You’re a Pollyanna.”
And that’s when I began to reflect on truth a bit more… How can there be only one truth? There are millions of people on this planet and I doubt there is one thing that we could get every single person to agree is true. Someone would most certainly have another opinion, another interpretation, another perspective — no matter what thing we chose.
What I’ve concluded is that there is no one truth, except for the truth of you. In other words, you have your own personal truth that exists within you — it stems from your inner knowing, your internal GPS, your personal connection to the divine.
This truth is what is valid for you — you can honor it and trust it — in fact you have to in order to feel fulfilled and peaceful. And everything else is……well, someone else’s truth.
It doesn’t mean that other people don’t know the truth — for they do! They know THEIR truth. Just like you know YOUR truth. And the only time we have conflict is when one person tries to make another accept their personal truth as a universal truth.
To take this a step further, there are large groups of people who might share overlapping personal truths (in some cases, they might share many overlaps; in other cases, just a few overlaps). So within these groups, they have an accepted “truth” that they all agree on.
What happens though is that because they are a large number of people, they might then assume that their truth is true for everyone — and then try to help others by teaching them their group’s truth. While they may be coming from a place of caring and good intention, it is not helpful to impose a truth on someone when their own personal truth is quite different.
The way around this is to realize, honor, and accept that each person has his/her own personal truth, and that it is just as valid as any other person’s truth (even if it sounds crazy to another!). We can avoid conflict by coming from a place of respect, a place of not knowing everything about everyone, a place of seeing the inner light of another as just as valid and powerful as your own, a place of the bigger picture or bird’s-eye view.
And when we can be in that place, it becomes quite acceptable to know your truth, and to hear another’s truth, even when they are so very different.
Please jump in and share your thoughts on ‘the truth’…