We all need support as we go through life….support from friends, family, significant others, neighbors, community members, etc. And there’s no reason you shouldn’t have this vital element in your life.
Some have watched family members die or just fade into non-connection, but you can still create your own clan, your own tribe, your own circle of life support.
Family doesn’t have to mean blood-related. Family can be comprised of anyone who truly loves and supports you, who nurtures you, who cares for you, checks in on you, and listens to you.
Your family consists of those who want what’s best for you, who truly SEE you and love you unconditionally, accept you as you are and yet still encourage you to be whoever you want to be.
And so I ask you, “Do you have Life Support?”
It’s the most crucial element for long-term health and well-being (as research has shown)….and it turns out that even our fuzzy four-legged friends can provide this essential connection for us.
And as I’ve mentioned before, women need to have a core group of friends to talk to and share with — it’s crucial to our happiness and peace of mind. And men rely heavily on their significant other/partner for their emotional well-being. (See my November post titled “Talking is Good for your Health…”)
It doesn’t matter what it looks like, how many are in it, or what you call it….as long as you receive that nurturing, cocooning, safe feeling from this group of people. They act like buoys to your boat, life preservers to your swimmer, bumpers to your car…..you get the picture!
The writer Jane Howard said it this way, “Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.”
It’s part of being human — we need connection. And we need the opportunity to give back to others, to nurture someone else, to be the support for a loved one, to help in a time of need — it goes both ways. We need to give as much as we need to receive.
So look around you — your life support can grow in any direction — godchildren, nieces and nephews, adopted grandchildren, adopted grandparents, a new neighbor, a colleague, someone you just met running errands…..the possibilities are endless.
Life is easier when we have the feeling of being buoyed by those who love us, and when we contribute the same in return.
For as George Sand believed, “There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.”
I’d love to hear from you — what does your life support look like?