Do you find yourself saying, “But what if ____ happens, then what?” or “I don’t know about that, what if ____ goes wrong?” These are fear-based statements and only serve to constrict you, to shrink you, to pull you back from life.
Do you find yourself worrying about what could go wrong, instead of focusing on what could go right? If so, you are allowing fear to rule your thinking, your decision-making, your life.
Comedian Bill Cosby said, “Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.” In other words, open up to the change that you are experiencing, and pretend that you requested it. You’ll be amazed at what a difference it will make in your experience of the change process.
Imagine flowing through the change, rather than fighting it with clenched hands holding on for dear life. Imagine feeling curious and excited, rather than worried and filled with dread. Imagine feeling peaceful and trusting, rather than anxious and uncertain.
It is possible to make this shift, even though our human nature has been programmed culturally and socially to fear change. We can alter how we respond to change, and create a more enjoyable experience of change in our lives.
Here’s a great metaphor to think about: The caterpillar follows its instinct to spin a cocoon and hibernate inside for a while. It doesn’t worry about why, or what will happen, or in what time frame! It just follows its knowing.
In what could be considered a very traumatic and scary experience, the caterpillar becomes mush in the chrysalis — it literally ceases to be a caterpillar anymore! (Think about this the next time you feel like you’re experiencing too much change — at least you’re still YOU!) And I would bet that the caterpillar is still trusting its instincts and not worrying itself to death about what’s next…
And as a result of this total trust and willingness to follow its knowing, the caterpillar changes into something even greater, even more magnificent, even more wondrous — the beautiful, winged butterfly. And now, it has even more abilities, for it can fly and sip nectar and pollinate flowers….all things that it couldn’t have even dreamed of being/doing when it was a caterpillar.
So if the caterpillar were to think about this process of change, just about the time it was beginning to think the world was over — VOILA! It becomes the next best version of itself.
Think of the trusting caterpillar the next time you’re beginning to worry about change, or are afraid of the unknown. And ask yourself this: “What if I just KNEW that everything was working out perfectly?”
Instead of allowing fear to rule you, try this and let me know how it goes…