I had an interesting conversation with a woman who was lamenting how this geographic area doesn’t stimulate her mind or engage her. After the typical discussion of ‘why did you move here, what activities/classes have you tried’, etc., it became clear to me that she was looking outside of herself for her joy.
And if you’ve been reading my posts for any amount of time now, you know that joy comes from within, not without. In fact, joy is an inside job (much like peace, self-love and other important states of being).
On Facebook the other day, I saw Dahvid Weiss spell enjoy as injoy because it is only accomplished from the inside out. I really like the alternate spelling as it reminds us of this fact every time we look at the word.
But back to the conversation with the woman — I listened for some time to her complaints and reasons why the culture in this area was problematic, the size of the population was an issue, the local laws were difficult, etc., until I simply reminded her, “You have to make yourself happy. It’s your job. No one else is responsible for your joy.”
She agreed with me, but continued to bemoan her situation — which let me know that she had not taken the concept to heart. And that was fine. For we each get to choose how we want to experience life, and she is free to choose to be unhappy and joyless.
Personally, I choose to injoy all that life has to offer, even when it’s not wrapped in a pretty bow and even when it might appear to be undesirable or unwanted. It’s not the easiest thing to do at first, but after a while, it becomes a fun challenge or a game: “How can I derive joy from this experience?”
I would love to hear from you, dear readers, about situations you’ve encountered that appeared to be difficult, but from which you were able to extract joy. How have you been injoying life?