I recently reconnected with a distant relative, and he was very unhappy with his life. He lamented to me, “How did I get here? This isn’t the way I planned for my life to be. What happened?”
And while most people would assume that the answer lay in some major “fork in the road” decision that he had made somewhere along his life’s path, I knew differently. You are where you are in life as a result of all the little choices, the tiny decisions that you made day in and day out for x number of years.
We tend to think that life is determined by monumental moments, big shifts, and awakenings….and while that is true in part, it’s even more true that our lives are made up of the minute-by-minute choices we make — choices about how we will respond to a situation, how we will feel in any given moment, who we will associate with and befriend, how we will allow people to treat us, what actions we will take or not take, and so on. All these small choices accumulate over time to mold and create your unique life path.
As you look back at your life, ask yourself these questions: Are you living from fear or love? Are you expanding or contracting? Are you aware of your impact on others? Are you consciously choosing how you will respond to situations/people?
I would guess that each of us has areas where we would like to be more aware and more conscious of our choices. Thaddeus Golas put it this way, “Perhaps many of us do not like it where we are in the universe now, but we can all be certain that we got where we are by our own decisions to expand in love or withdraw from it.”
No matter what you discover, don’t dismay….for the good news is that you can alter your course at any time. Carlos Castaneda reassures us of this, “Any path is only a path, and there is no affront to yourself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you.”
You have the power to reroute your life, if you so desire. “Nothing is predestined: the obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.” (Ralph Blum)
This is the ideal time of year to reflect on your life, to ask yourself if you are at peace with your path so far, and to tune in to your inner knowing and discover what new roads may lie ahead of you.
What does your future hold? It holds an outcome that is the result of all the little choices you are making right now…