I’ve noticed that friends and colleagues (and probably most people, like you) tend to worry and stress over things they can’t control….in an effort to control the uncontrollable, they create an anxious feeling.
Here’s a simple thing to try to feel free of this type of stress and worry: Surrender….yes, let go of trying to tightly manage everything in your life….let some things go undone, let some things be imperfect, let a few items fall off the bottom of your “to-do” list, and surrender your feeling of omnipotence.
Become small and singularly human, prone to mistakes, unable to manage all the various moving parts — give up the idea of being good at multitasking everything, and simply give in to the idea that you CANNOT control things.
It sounds radical, I know. We are raised to feel accomplishment by having a sense of control over our lives, over our daily activities, over the outcomes and goals we reach….and yet, I’m here to tell you, that’s all a big myth.
We really have NO control….none….zilch. Life will do whatever it will do, and our greatest stress comes from resisting what is happening…..from trying to make the outcome different than what it is….from having expectations that things turn out a certain way and actually believing in the myth that we can make that happen.
All stress comes from attachment to outcome. Period. End of story. If you let go of your expectations, let go of your desires and wishes for things to be a certain way….then you will feel free, at ease, and without worry.
This doesn’t mean you don’t make efforts to get the desired result you want — of course, you can still have goals and shoot for them…. But it does mean, that after you’ve made your best efforts, it’s time to release your attachment to the outcome, let go of any need for it to turn out a certain way, and open up to whatever life brings.
Try it….even for 30 seconds….and notice the relief you feel, the absence of worry and stress…. There is a peace in not having to manage every detail of life, in knowing that you gave your best effort, and in not feeling responsible for how things turn out.
Have you tried this? Share with me what your experience was like….