In yesterday’s post “The Rarest Thing“, I asked if you are living or existing. I would like to clarify that my questions are not meant to elicit a black or white answer from you. In most cases, your answer will fall on the continuum somewhere between the two choices — in other words, in the gray area.
Become aware of how you are moving through life (ie are you more toward the “living/alive” end of the spectrum, or more toward the “existing/going through the motions” end of the spectrum?). What is your shade of gray?
What I DON’T want is for you to judge yourself as a result of becoming aware! Remember to step into the Observer “I” role and notice what you discover about yourself. Stay neutral, with thoughts like, “Isn’t that interesting….I didn’t even realize that’s where I am. I’m really glad I reflected on this.” (If you aren’t familiar with the Observer “I”, please refer to my earlier post titled “Be the Observer.”)
If you’d like to move more toward the living end of the spectrum, you already know that accepting “what is” and bringing your awareness to how you’re living are the first steps in this process. (See the “Expect Nothing” post for more on how to do this.)
There are very few things in life that are black or white, or so concrete that we can say we are all one or all the other. We live in the shades of gray….so determine (through awareness) what shade of gray you are.
Then, without judgment, and with acceptance, notice yourself as you go through your everyday activities. Keep bringing your awareness to how you are in relation to life (living or existing), and you will begin to see subtle changes taking place.
Notice if you’re living more than you were previously…. notice if you are experiencing more joy in your daily life… Are you feeling more wonder? Do you see more evidence of miracles?
And most importantly, remember that you are on a unique and individual path in life….so you cannot compare yourself to anyone else.
A wise Chinese proverb said it best, “Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.”