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Without trust, there is no relationship. Instead you have a minefield where at any moment, someone might explode. With trust, love can flourish, intimacy can bloom, connection can deepen, and understanding can grow. When trust is present, love has a real chance. If you find yourself in an intimate relationship where you don’t trust theRead more

“True friendship can afford true knowledge. It does not depend on darkness and ignorance.”  (Thoreau) I once had a male friend who lived in the US, but who was from India. Out of all the many cultural differences we noticed between us, the one I found the most frustrating was his insistence on telling meRead more

see that man on the corner tattered clothes, dirty fingers smelling of stale odors (that you’d rather not identify) you quickly walk by him hoping he won’t ask something of you instead take a moment to see his inherent nature for it is the exact same essence you see in that chubby little baby dressedRead more

“That which God said to the rose, and caused it to laugh in full-blown beauty, He said to my heart, and made it a hundred times more beautiful.”  (Rumi) *** the beauty of my heart lies in its connection to you to us to all the beauty of my heart is vast deep ebullient powerfulRead more

“Thousands of channels there are through which the beauty of our soul may sail even unto our thoughts. Above all, there is the wonderful, central channel of love.” (Maeterlinck) What channel are you tuned into? Are you willing to explore some of the thousands of channels in your effort to hear and know your soul’sRead more

when i look into the depths of your eyes i get lost in the goodness of you touching down into your essential self i feel embraced fully infused with your love the miraculous nature of our connection amazes my heart and mind yet feels so perfectly correct and true i cannot question its source graceRead more

to be alone means to be by oneself in that respect it is different from being lonely which means to feel apart separated from others, love, community but am i ever alone when there is such a strong invisible yet palpable connection to others, nature, life, god perhaps my individuality is a grand illusion aRead more

For the past two days, we’ve been talking about loving ‘what is’ with regard to a life partner. Here is an example of what that might look like. Tony is Italian and has always dreamed of finding a buxom, curvaceous Italian woman who loves to cook and wants to have a family. Tony loves brunettesRead more

There are many aspects to loving ‘what is’, but today let’s look at relationships, specifically intimate ones and close friendships.  We’ve already talked about how damaging it is to both people in the relationship if one or both of you is trying to change the other.  It just doesn’t work. The alternative is to acceptRead more

what does love feel like? the infant held gently looks up at daddy’s face the love between them palpable the schoolboy skins his knee teacher makes it better the love is tangible what does love feel like? the college girl newly on her own calls home for reassurance a connection love flows across the distanceRead more