“An experience can’t be happy, eternally. We are bipolar beings. When there’s happiness, there’s automatically sorrow. If we were purely happy all the time, it would get so damn monotonous we’d wish for some sorrow or problem to overcome, just for the sake of a challenge.” (Richard Rose)
And so why is it that we give such bad press to difficult situations and experiences in our lives? If it weren’t for the downs, how would we know when we are up? It is because of sadness that we can truly appreciate joy.
And as I’ve mentioned before, it is from the challenges and difficulties that we grow and learn, not from the times of ease. So why do we give hard times such a bad rap?
I like G.K. Chesterton’s point of view, “An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered. An inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered.” Basically it all comes down to our attitude and our perspective (this might sound familiar to my regular readers).
What if you view life as a roller coaster ride that you are on for the thrill and sheer fun of it? I imagine very few of you would enjoy the ride if it just coasted along flatly for the entire ride — boring! Instead, you’d prefer some ups and downs, some highs and lows, some turns and change of scenery to create contrast and new experiences — now that’s fun!
Consider that the ups and downs of your life are the two sides of a coin….you can’t have one without the other. In fact, they belong together, they work best when paired up. It’s the cycle of life: periods of ease, periods of difficulty, periods of ebb, periods of flow, and periods of everything in between.
Robert Brault’s optimistic view says it nicely, “Either way, things are a lot better — either a lot better than they were or a lot better than they’re going to be.”
So embrace the bipolarism of life…see it for the thrilling ride that it can be. Know that life includes the scary downs, as well as the exciting ups, and every humdrum place in between.
How have you embraced this ride called life?