Note from Elise: Occasionally I invite guests to post their thoughts for you. I think you’ll enjoy the ideas and unique voices. At the end of each post, you can read a brief bio about the guest author. Enjoy!
When asked to write a guest blog post, I decided to share with you the wisdom my friends and I have gained over our lifetimes since we were young adults. I began gathering this insight by sending an email to my friends. I asked them to share what they wish they had known when they were twenty-five. And herewith I share their combined wisdom:
- Learn to listen and trust your inner voice and intuition. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. I recently heard a spiritual leader refer to it as ‘listening with the ear behind your ear’. A nice way to look at it…
- Recognize the power within you. Your life is truly yours to create. Don’t look outside for your sense of self. Self confidence is a thought and a feeling and easy to achieve by simply giving it to yourself. Think highly of yourself, because the world takes you at your own estimation.
- Spend as much quality time with your parents as possible, for they go sooner than you think and they really do have wisdom. Understand the value of living close to family.
- You will never learn through formal education all you need to know about living a meaningful life and being a beneficial presence in the world.
- Friends will always teach you more than a boss or a teacher will…so choose your friends carefully. Think hard about who you marry, it’s the most important decision you will make in life.
- Ask for what you want instead of taking what is given. This was profound for me… so I repeat… Ask for what you want instead of taking what is given. Set your own course before someone else does!
- Be gentle with your health and body. Create positive, healthy lifetime habits. Exercise regularly, take ten minutes each morning to breath deeply and center your self. Use sunscreen (it pays off later), save money early and as much as you can, and eat your vegetables! Believing yourself invincible early in your life denies you of good health later.
- Trust in a higher power or a creative process, whatever that is for you.
- Understand that good stress yields achievement. Overcoming difficulties successfully equates to happiness. Don’t fear pressure. That’s how rough stones become diamonds. Tough times are temporary. We are built to survive.
- Be absolutely paranoid about the currency of your knowledge. Continue to learn. Find a mentor and be a mentor. Give back.
- Spread your light. Don’t be stingy with your brilliance — share your essence with the world. Offer to light as many other candles as you encounter. For if they are on your path, you are meant to touch their lives and they yours in some way. It might be a sweet accepting smile for someone who is clearly having a bad day; perhaps it’s a knowing look for someone who needs to be seen, or it may be your presence beside someone, holding space for them when they need help. Compassion will never be lost on anyone.
- Don’t let fear stop you from doing what you want. Feel the fear, and do it anyway!
- Time goes by so quickly in life.
- Lighten up! Life is intended to be enjoyed. I will share with you my husband’s nickname for me when we first met: LUM…Lighten Up Mary…. I could be very intense back then.
- Learn a bit of humility. Humility will take you much farther than false pride and hubris.
- Live life with class and dignity.
- Find a way of being in the world that resonates with your inner self, that allows your soul to blossom and shine, and that enables you to live freely and joyously.
“We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere.” (Tim McGraw)
So let these words be a small part of me that you take along your life’s journey. And remember what Christopher Robin said to Winnie the Pooh:
“You’re braver than you believe,
and stronger than you seem,
and smarter than you think“. (A.A. Milne)
Mary Klein has lived in Washington, Utah for the past six years after living most of her adult life in Nevada and California. She now teaches Medical Radiography at Dixie State College of Utah, after a long career in Hospital Radiology Administration and Leadership. She is on a personal journey of discovery and deepened spiritual and soul awareness.